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It feels like something is missing from life, like you aren't quite "there".   

 

You have a lot of good things going for you in life.  But, it's not enough.  You feel anxious when you are home and don't have anything scheduled for the weekend coming up.  You hear about your friends' plans and wonder if you'll be invited. You go on a few dates and feel like you are hitting it off, but then sit and wonder when it'll become official, or take the next steps. 

 

Or maybe you are already in a committed relationship, but anytime there is a disagreement, it feels like you are about to break up. Maybe you are wondering, when will we get married, when will... I finally hit my timeline... when will I finally feel secure. 

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Or maybe you end up having the same old argument with your long term partner. They don't listen, they don't hear you, you don't feel like their priority. Even though you are with them all the time... you feel alone.

 

Whatever it is, you are starting to notice the impact of this on every facet of your life.  You notice: 

• In relationships: 

  • you put other's needs before your own (people-pleasing)

  • you overanalyzing texts or calls or social media for hidden meaning

  • staying in unhealthy relationships for fear of being alone

  • needing constant reassurance but struggling to ask for what you want

• At work: 

  • people pleasing to maintain approval from peers or supervisors​

  • feeling anxious about performance reviews or general feedback, having a fear of failure

  • difficulty setting boundaries with colleagues or clients

  • overworking to feel 'good enough'

• With yourself

  • Super harsh inner-critic that just won't stop

  • can't relax in your free-time or feeling restful

  • oscillating between needing your own space versus closeness

  • trouble distilling between your own wants and needs from other's expectations

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Its possible to be happy, just as you are, right where you are. Relational attachment therapy can help. 

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It may feel so far away, but it is possible to feel secure, just as you are.  To know that you are enough regardless.  That its okay if this date doesn't work out, and that you can have so much fun being single, or in a relationship.  You can know that you deserve to be happy and secure regardless of your relationship status.  

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Relational and attachment therapy can help you do 4 things: 

• feel safe and secure in your own body

• to know that your self-worth isn't determined by your relationship status

• improve the quality of all your relationships, since you'll be showing up in an authentic way

• help you to live your life just as you are, no more 'I have to be married to buy a house' or 'I'll go on vacation when I have a partner who loves to travel'

 

I help walk with you through this process, creating a path feel grounded, safe, peaceful, just as you are. My approach to relational attachment therapy comes from a place of knowing: knowing that there was never anything wrong with you.  There were untrue beliefs blocking your way to your own knowing, often coming from old stories that no longer serve you. 

 

You don't have to believe the old stories of 'not enough' anymore.

 

And I can help you get there.  ​ 

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